One Size Fits All?...really?

When I go out to shop and see some clothes with the tag 'One size fits all' I put that item back on the rail.  It'll never be a tag that works for me and yet for someone else it might be perfect.

Then it got me thinking about 'one size fits all' and 'coaching' and how many ways there are to communicate.  There are tons of opinions on the internet about the Law of Attraction, The Secret, vision boards and SMART goals.  Some cite that the power of positive thinking is an impossible task, while others view the law of attraction as a notion that isn't realistic.

Vision boards are also up for the opinion poll, and some go so far as to outline experiments conducted that show how a vision board may provide a sense of satisfaction among people but that it doesn't ultimately result in more success.

So it got me thinking and some of those thoughts were as follows:

1 - A vision board provides people with a chance to play.  It frees up their inhibitions, permits them to dream BIG and provides some focus for getting clear on what they want to go for.

2 - A positive attitude can help them to take action and ensure that goals extracted from the vision board can be SMART (Specific, Measurable, Achieveable, Realistic and Timely)

3 - The idea that energetically we influence outcomes through thoughts can help us to understand the simple principle that what we put our attention on we get more of.  Minds will wander, thoughts will dip, energy shifts...but being AWARE that this impacts on our ability to think or focus and take action to or away from a goal can be extremely helpful.

4 - Lots of options being available to people means there is a stronger likelihood that a change for the better can be made in their lives because the message behind all of this is about being responsible for your own life and how you live it.  

If all of these approaches to coaching dispelled with the myth that one is better than the other, then essentially you just have a good solid honest message told a number of different ways.As far as communication goes one size does NOT fit all so however the message reaches you, if it helps you to shift your thinking or move to act positively then it is doing the job it is meant to do.  It's helping.

What is it that you really want then?

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An interesting observation in recent weeks is how many of us choose to focus on what we don't want in our lives on a daily basis.  I've heard a lot of people, including myself, ease into the conversation of a situation in our lives that doesn't work for us any more.

The conversations range widely but what the common denominator in them all is where the focus is.  Instead of taking action to change and go after a solution, the energy seems to focused on what we don't want in our lives and how we don't want certain things or situations to continue.

The problem here is that the focus remains on the 'don't want' topic.  In relation to the Law of Attraction, it really doesn't discern whether you want or don't want an outcome...it simply gives you more of the stuff you've placed your energy and attention on.

Another area of observation for the last short while however is the amount of people 'surprised' about how happy they are!  They're feeling lighter, more in flow with their life and definitely unreservedly more 'happy'.  It catches them off guard completely.

Yet I wonder if they've just been implementing a very simple and natural rule but perhaps don't realise it.  Maybe they reached a tipping point where what they didn't want just finally made them stop what they were doing and take stock of their life.  Maybe they got tired of the same routine and found themselves going 'right, I've had enough and I'm doing what I want from now on'. 

Either way the shift that has occurred is clearly working for these individuals, and what is very interesting is that it isn't a phase.  They seem to be moving into this new way of asserting what they want in their life to happen so that it becomes a natural thing to do. 

So if you find yourself stuck in the mud still, maybe take a minute and ask yourself 'What is it that I really want right now?

You never know, you might just be surprised at what happens!

Energy Forecasts

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Lee Harris is one of the best bloggers out there at the minute for me. Every month he posts about the energy for that month, and his accuracy in relation to being able to pinpoint what people are feeling is brilliant. So for the month of September, I wanted to bring his forecast to the attention of anyone visiting this blog. In particular, I wanted to highlight that for those feeling a little under the weather and unsure why and for those feeling their energy shifting in new ways but can't quite put their finger on the whey either, then this forecast could help.
There is a lot of focus on Syria at present, and I for one hope that any further conflict and hurt can be avoided at all costs. It means that whether or not you are aware of it, your subconscious is aware of a fear and threat and this can change your energy considerably. As most of us have gone through considerable change over the last 5 years, in some cases change has been forced upon us whether we wanted it or not, some may feel that they're only beginning to get a sense of being grounded again and moving forward positively. Use the energy at the moment in the world to ground yourself and don't buy into the media turmoil.
By that, I mean always ask yourself about what the media is presenting to you and aim to remove the fear aspect as much as possible from the information. I sincerely hope some of you find the forecast helpful as I know I definitely look forward to Lees insights each month.
LINK -www.leeharris.energy.blogspot.ie

Belief Systems - when did you last examine them?

Something that really struck me recently is how often our needs and values fluctuate in the current climate. We've all been really tested over the last few years as job stability and financial security seemed like a fairytale told to kids. As the economy is still shifting into a more positive place, and it is taking a long time...the needs and values we held dear to us previously don't seem to fit the mould anymore. Our beliefs around employment have changed dramatically, sometimes not by choice and often under duress. For some the rude awakening around the reality of jobs, employment, money, savings...planning for the future...were simply too much to handle. One thing that has stood out is that a persons ability to examine their beliefs around these areas and 'let go' of outdated modes of thinking have enabled them to stay grounded. Fighting with reality is never a good thing to do but isn't it more empowering to actually state what type of beliefs you have, see if they're working for or against the reality and then adjust them to a new form of belief? I'm not talking about adapting negative 'reality' beliefs either...I'm talking about empowering beliefs. One that assist you with embracing the change and growing and learning from all the situations that have presented themselves. I'm talking about reinstating needs and values for RIGHT NOW..so that beliefs built into these needs and values support them rather than grate against them. So have you taken the time to review your beliefs lately?